Promise me something, Gal, he said. "Anything, I answered." "Swear that you will put a gun to my head if I wind up like my father." Nancy Stearns Bercaw crossed her fingers the day she promised to kill her father. Instead she promised herself to one day tell his story, and in this unflinchingly honest memoir she recounts her life with Dr. Beauregard Lee Bercaw, or "Beau," who became a neurologist in response to watching his own father deteriorate and die of Alzheimer's. For many years Beau kept an autopsied brain in a jar on the desk in his office as a constant reminder of the struggle that he waged against the disease first with his patients, and ultimately for himself as he succumbed to its effects. This is also the story of the author's own struggle to establish her identity and to navigate the treacherous and ever-changing emotional terrain of her relationship with her father, as she literally traveled the world in her quest to make sense of both of their lives. It would be reason enough to read this book as a gripping account of a family dealing with a tragic disease that continues to ravage the lives of countless victims and their survivors. But to say that this is an important book on a crucial subject is to understate its merits, for in a larger sense, this book is not about Alzheimer's, but rather a more universal subject, family, and how this one family and this one daughter in particular managed to live in the deep shadow of Beau's obsession. Surprisingly, given these dark themes, this is often a very funny book, tragicomic in the manner of real life that fiction can never equal. Beau is such a vivid, complex and often infuriating character that if you were to encounter him in a novel you might dismiss him as too unlikely to be real; while the author's own travels and adventures can seem almost too much to have been crammed into a single, still very much ongoing life. It is a gift that this talented and engaging writer should have lived or perhaps better, survived such an incredible life, and that she has chosen to share her memoir and mission with us. This is a rollicking roller-coaster of a read, and it ends in the best possible way, filled with life and hope.
About the Author
Writer and national champion swimmer Nancy Stearns Bercaw is a seventeen-time NCAA All-American athlete and was inducted into the University of South Florida’s Athletic Hall of Fame in 2009. Her writing has appeared in publications around the world, including the New York Times, the Huffington Post, the Korea Herald, U.S. News & World Report, Abu Dhabi’s Tempo magazine, and ScaryMommy. She is the author of Brain in a Jar: A Daughter’s Journey through Her Father’s Memory and a contributor to Chicken Soup for the Soul: Living with Alzheimer’s and Other Dementias. She lives in Vermont with her husband and son.